If you’ve gone through a divorce or are in the process, you know how much of a life-changing event it is. But, are you looking at it as a glass-half-full or half-empty scenario?
By choosing to look at it as a glass-half-full situation, you can empower yourself to jumpstart your life. Although one part of your life may be over, another is about to begin and that within itself is exciting.
Here are some ways to start your new adventure:
Step out of your comfort zone
Now is the best time to give yourself the freedom to try something new. There’s nothing and no one holding you back. Perhaps you’ve made a list of things you’ve always wanted to do but never did for one reason or another. Whatever it is, start at the top of the list and make your way down. Not only will you feel proud of yourself for accomplishing this, but you may also meet new friends in the process.
Rediscover old hobbies
Think about the hobbies you did before you got married. Did you love to paint? Run? Garden? Whatever it is, rediscover it. Sometimes being married and starting a family can make you put your interests on the back burner. If you fall into this category, it’s time to give those old hobbies the attention they deserve. Who knows what could happen when you do?
Hire a career coach
For some, divorce may mean finding a new job to bring in more income or to take that next step up the career ladder. If this is the case, consider hiring a career coach to make the process easier and more successful. A career coach can craft your résumé, guide you to where to look for the jobs you want, and help you with the interview process. If you want a career change, a career coach can also help you decide what types of jobs may suit you best. Having a go-to person like this on your team will give you the support you need to reach your goals.
Forgive yourself and your ex
If you can’t forgive yourself and your ex, you’re going to have a tougher time moving on. Forgiveness can help you heal the emotional scars that go along with divorce. No matter who may have done what, forgive yourself and your ex so that you can both move on. Nobody is perfect. Cut yourself some slack so that you can begin the healing process. If you dwell on past mistakes you won’t be able to move forward. It might seem difficult to do, but you might be amazed at how freeing it actually is!
See a therapist
Finding a therapist you can trust and confide in can also help you move on. Talking about your issues and getting honest answers and guidance is key for many people. Although you may talk to your friends and family, a therapist can give you the unbiased opinions that you need to get the clarity to jumpstart your life.
Take a girls trip
Over the past few years, there’s been a new trend in travel…divorce vacations. Rather than sitting around and being sad, many women are setting their sights on a fun vacation to celebrate the next chapter in their lives. Why not bring your best girlfriends along? Perhaps you have several bucket list destinations. There’s no time like the present to choose one and get moving. A dream vacation with your best girlfriends can give you the perspective you need to move on.
Take one of these tips and run with it or try all of them. Whatever you decide, remember you’re in the driver’s seat and it’s time to jumpstart your life starting now!
