Going through a divorce can be a difficult process for everyone involved. With so many factors to consider, it can be easy to make mistakes along the way. Knowing what some of these common mistakes are before can prevent you from falling victim to unnecessary problems as you go through your divorce.
We’re going to share six of these common mistakes during a divorce to help make the process smoother for you.
6 Mistakes to Avoid During a Divorce
1. Allowing Your Emotions to Guide You
There’s no denying that emotions run high during a divorce. But you can’t let your emotions guide you through the process. Allowing feelings of rage, frustration, and sadness to impact your decisions will result in poor choices that seriously affect your life.
If you let your emotions cloud your judgment you may end up fighting for things that you don’t really need and neglecting the things that you do. You may also prolong the process unnecessarily.
To avoid allowing your emotions to guide you through your divorce, don’t make any decisions until you are in a calm and rational mood. This will allow you to make well-thought-out decisions during the process and avoid bigger problems down the road.
2. Refusing to Negotiate
While you don’t want to give in too easily, you also don’t want to be so difficult that you can’t negotiate a fair deal. Although you may not like talking to your spouse, negotiating is a good way to speed up the process and cut down on court expenses. Your divorce attorney can advise you about which topics you should negotiate and which ones are worth deeper discussions. This way, your divorce settlement will hopefully be fair to both parties.
3. Putting Out Too Much Information on social media
Many people believe that their friends are the only ones who can see their posts and activities on social media. But, despite security and privacy settings, other people may be able to see and share your posts or photos. Any questionable behavior or comments can be used against you during your divorce.
When you’re going through a divorce, one of the easiest things you can do to avoid this type of mistake is to stay off of social media. This way, there will be no evidence that can be used to paint you in a negative light. You will also want to stay out of other people’s posts. You never know where a tagged post of you may end up, especially if you’re engaging in questionable activity. Staying off of social media will allow you to focus on your divorce and move on with your life.
4. Not Having a Detailed Parenting Plan
When children are involved in a divorce, it can get even more complicated. This is why you want to have a well-thought-out, detailed parenting plan. This will clearly state, in writing, who the children live with, what the visitation schedule looks like, and who will be responsible for the majority of childcare, among other issues.
Many times, parents don’t have a solid parenting plan in place during the divorce because they believe that they can work things out with their spouse. But many situations change and what your spouse agrees to one day, they may disagree with the next. If everything is in writing and detailed, there is no ambiguity.
5. Emptying the Checking Account and Claiming Marital Assets
During a divorce, it is common for one spouse to drain a joint bank account or hide assets. Either one can backfire in divorce court. Once divorce papers have been filed, you do not want to touch joint assets. These will be divided during the process. If you start withdrawing money from accounts or simply claiming items, it will hurt you down the road. This will hurt your credibility with the judge and can impact what you are given during the divorce. It’s best to leave everything untouched and let the judge decide who is entitled to your marital assets.
6. Not Realistically Looking at Your Post-Divorce Finances
There is no denying that a divorce will impact your financial future. You may have to get used to a lower income, increased costs, alimony payments, or child support. Any of these, or a combination of several of them, can have serious consequences on your bank account.
To prevent this from happening, have a clear idea of what your new income will be and your new expenses. This will allow you to create a realistic budget of what your post-divorce life will look like. Once you have this done, you can make realistic decisions about your financial future.
Emptying the bank accounts, not having a solid parenting plan, and refusing to negotiate are among the common mistakes that people make during a divorce. If you see yourself falling into any of these common pitfalls, you can choose to change your behavior before it’s too late. This can make your divorce proceedings go smoother for both you and your spouse as well as any children who may be involved.
If you are going through a divorce and would like a free consultation, please contact William Strachan at 714-841-1931 and mention this blog.